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When You Must Leave

I am often amazed that a woman who has been beaten will not or cannot leave the batterer.  Leaving would be the most instinctual and self protective thing to do.  In my clinical practice I’ve heard women make excuses for the batterer and talk about the times when it is really good between them.  Usually such times are referred to as the making up, honeymoon period.  From where I sit, this is a lull that lasts roughly six weeks between episodes.  When the beating stops there is overwhelming relief, and often a powerful high.  He is attentive, contrite and “very very good”.  He has the power

If The Law Of Attraction Is Not Working For You

Just like the iceberg is 10% visible and 90% under water so it is with the conscious mind and subconscious mind. Most of us go through life about 10% in charge of what we are doing. The vast unknown our subconscious is a rich underworld of shadows, beliefs, fears, anger; the sum total of every thing that has happened to us from birth, the whole catastrophe. Guess then who is really running your life. You got it, the parts your ignore, despise, reject or project.

Obstacles to Manifestation: Fear of Change

Since change is the only constant in our lives, why is it so frightening to choose to change? Often it is thrust upon us and we didn’t see it coming. It may come in a way that cuts us off at the knees, such as having life, as we know it obliterated, like a tornado or hurricane. Somehow when such happens, time and time again we observe people having the courage and determination to reach down into their reservoir of resilience to deal with catastrophe. Where did all their courage, fearlessness, faith, determination come from, we ask ourselves. How were they able to do it?

A Passion for Living

Passion is not a quality that some people are born with but not others.  To be passionate is as natural as breathing, as being alive, the source of who you are.  And Yet...when was the last time you let that part of you out to play.  Watch a child play and you see passion in action.  They know the secret of living each moment with attention and wonder.   As adults we tend to experience a guarded participation in our feelings that leaves us lukewarm toward much of our world.  If you have turned into a bored and passionless grown up, it may be time to let the child your once were be your teac

What is behind the mask?

To be at peace with ourselves, we need to know ourselves ... (C. Matthews).

Aware or not we live many lives, not referring to reincarnation but to the evolutionary track of our lives, through infancy, childhood, adolescence, college, career, marriage, parenting, grandparenting and often widowhood.  Each stage brings laughters and tears and at each stage, new personal preferences, leaving us often to question.  Who am I now? You may fill many roles, but are you the roles you fill?  I think not.  Do you want to know yourself at a deeper level?

Life’s Illusions

…”I recall, I really don’t know life at all” Some mornings when I go for my walk its not quire daylight. There is just enough light to see where I’m going in the early morning fog, or rising sun. Although I’m on a familiar path there are times something up ahead looks eerily different and alarming. When I get abreast of what looked like a crouching ferral animal, I see it is no more than an old rotting tree stump, changing shapes in the semi darkness. I relax and continue on the path. Something rustles fiercely in the woods.

How To Make Anger Your Ally

“Creative energy that is not being rightly used...” (Osho, 1999)

A Master lived in the mountains.  He answered several of life’s hard questions for the inquirer without hesitation.  When asked how to handle anger, he broke his walking stick in half and bellowed, “Do you think I’d be living alone in this deserted place if I had the answer to that?”  Sooner or later we all have to come down from the mountain, and deal with fellow humans in the market place.  Someone is invariably going to step on our toe, OUCH!!

Change Is The Only Constant

Since change is the only constant in our lives, why is it so frightening to choose to change? Often it is thrust upon us and we didn’t see it coming. It may come in a way that cuts us off at the knees, such as having life, as we know it obliterated, like a tornado or hurricane. Somehow when such happens, time and time again we observe people having the courage and determination to reach down into their reservoir of resilience to deal with catastrophe. Where did all their courage, fearlessness, faith, determination come from, we ask ourselves. How were they able to do it?

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