Questions Provide Space For Dreams To Take Flight
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Having spent my early years on an island off the coast of Newfoundland, I remember well the ferocity of the Atlantic Ocean beating against the rocky cliffs along the shoreline. Often birds flew into and nestled on the barren ledges, hanging on, with their bodies shivering. Some of the birds nestled in places where they would continue to be battered at the mercy of nature’s fury. There might have been a ‘soft place to fall’ just beyond those ledges; however they like us, stayed, struggled and shivered in scarcity because it was familiar.
Do you willfully turn away from the asking?
Are you in a “rut,” ignoring the inner pull towards truth and change, while clinging to an illusion of safety and security. All the while; you know that you are in a grave act of denial and the charge connected to this distress will have consequences. We cannot gain freedom by denying or wishing.
Every New Year you get another opportunity to take a risk of knowing how incredible you truly are. I say risk because once you allow yourself to align with the fact that ‘you are enough’: what are you going to do with that truth. It is a responsibility is it not? But I digress.
… Allow your loneliness time
To dissolve the shell of dross
That had closed around you;
Choose in this severe silence
To hear the one true voice
Your rushed life fears,
Cradle yourself like a child
Learning to trust what emerges,
So that gradually
You may come to know … The glimmer of springtime
(John O’ Donohue)
Let go of winter’s grip and allow spring to open your heart to new possibilities. “To everything there is a season…” (Ecclesiastes) Is spring your season? For some of us, New Year’s resolutions have grown cold, because the timing was not right, and our seeds of change had to germinate for a while longer in darkness
“How long has it been since I slept a whole night in a twin bed with a stranger?” (Joan Baez)
How long has it been since you allowed yourself to feel a wildness, a full heart experience whereby you lost yourself totally in the moment?
How long has it been since you set aside customary rules, thinking and shoulds to do something that has been burning inside?
"Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it”― Gautama Buddha
Desire without attachment is not possible. Desire is the propeller that moves us forward towards a fulfillment. Sometimes in an effort to stay safe we squelch our desires to the point we no longer know what they are. Desirelessness is not a state to stay in.
How to get More of what You Really want in Intimate Relationships:
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have had a front row seat, to observe the many ways women sabotage themselves when it comes to having more of what they want/need in intimate relationships.
And now let us welcome the New Year full of things that have never been - Rainer Marie Rilke
The New Year is- an opportunity to journey within, and write a new chapter in your life. It is time to stop if for just a few moments, start a journal and write down your reflections, hopes, as well as your dreams. Explore how you have honored them in your life so far and especially the part you want them to play in the coming year, Reflect on your yearnings, as well as your longings that get tucked away (until there is time). As you journal ask yourself some of the following questions.