Having spent my early years on an island off the coast of Newfoundland, I remember well the ferocity of the Atlantic Ocean beating against the rocky cliffs along the shoreline. Often birds flew into and nestled on the barren ledges, hanging on, with their bodies shivering. Some of the birds nestled in places where they would continue to be battered at the mercy of nature’s fury. There might have been a ‘soft place to fall’ just beyond those ledges; however they like us, stayed, struggled and shivered in scarcity because it was familiar.
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Do you remember all the questions you asked, when you were 360*of passionate living, before being ‘civilized’. You wanted to know, the where, what and how of everything. What happened to her? By the age of 7, or before the age of reason she was conditioned to ask socially acceptable questions; other types of questions; not so much. Early in life most of our questions are primarily of a curious nature about the external world. Right here, right now I am asking you to risk the questions that will give you answers from your inner world, and inner mysteries.
Every New Year you get another opportunity to take a risk of knowing how incredible you truly are. I say risk because once you allow yourself to align with the fact that ‘you are enough’: what are you going to do with that truth. It is a responsibility is it not? But I digress.
… Allow your loneliness time
To dissolve the shell of dross
That had closed around you;
Choose in this severe silence
To hear the one true voice
Your rushed life fears,
Cradle yourself like a child
Learning to trust what emerges,
So that gradually
You may come to know … The glimmer of springtime
(John O’ Donohue)
Let go of winter’s grip and allow spring to open your heart to new possibilities. “To everything there is a season…” (Ecclesiastes) Is spring your season? For some of us, New Year’s resolutions have grown cold, because the timing was not right, and our seeds of change had to germinate for a while longer in darkness
“How long has it been since I slept a whole night in a twin bed with a stranger?” (Joan Baez)
How long has it been since you allowed yourself to feel a wildness, a full heart experience whereby you lost yourself totally in the moment?
How long has it been since you set aside customary rules, thinking and shoulds to do something that has been burning inside?
"Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it”― Gautama Buddha
Desire without attachment is not possible. Desire is the propeller that moves us forward towards a fulfillment. Sometimes in an effort to stay safe we squelch our desires to the point we no longer know what they are. Desirelessness is not a state to stay in.
How to get More of what You Really want in Intimate Relationships:
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have had a front row seat, to observe the many ways women sabotage themselves when it comes to having more of what they want/need in intimate relationships.
And now let us welcome the New Year full of things that have never been - Rainer Marie Rilke
The New Year is- an opportunity to journey within, and write a new chapter in your life. It is time to stop if for just a few moments, start a journal and write down your reflections, hopes, as well as your dreams. Explore how you have honored them in your life so far and especially the part you want them to play in the coming year, Reflect on your yearnings, as well as your longings that get tucked away (until there is time). As you journal ask yourself some of the following questions.
Why am I getting Muddied Results?
We manifest in our lives whatever we give our attention and energy to or focus on, positive or negative. The Law is always working whether we are consciously directing it or not. The outcome of the Law is influenced by many factors however the following three are important to remember.
Desire is the force which sets energy in motion
Fear is an obstacle by which the current is stopped or completely reversed (turned away from us)
Doubt; at best doubt muddies the waters, Doubt is that place we go to when we have an inner glitch or stopper that delays us due to feeling a lack of worthiness in regards to attaining what we desire.